One of the biggest mistakes you can make after your boyfriend breaks up with you is becoming desperate to make him fall in love with you again. It’s easier today to make contact with your ex than ever before, but you have to be careful of sending tons of email and text messages. You also have to use some self control when you awaken in the middle of the night with an uncontrollable urge to hear his voice.
Your ex boyfriend didn’t breakup with you because he wanted to stay close to you. Instead he has made it clear that he wants some time away from you and you should respect his rights. Pushing a man farther and farther away from you is not the way to make him fall in love with you, yet that is exactly what you are doing. If you were thinking clearly you would realize that this is not the way you made him fall in love with you before.
When you first met the man you fell in love with, you would never have dreamed that you would be doing the things you are doing now. Back at the beginning, your ex was captivated by how free spirited and confident you appeared to be. Of course everything was new at that time and you were both showing your best sides. Now you are crying and begging and your ex boyfriend is rejecting you. This is hardly the way to show your best sides,
To get your ex boyfriend to fall in love with you again, you have to make everything new again. Sure it will be different because you know each other so well now, but to get your ex back, you have to make him notice you again and wonder if breaking up with you was a mistake. In order to do that, you will have to let him see what his life is like without you in it.
Your ex boyfriend can’t miss you if you are always in his face, so you have to put some space between the two of you. The best way would be to go away for a week or so, where you will not have any contact with him. Give him time to think of the good times he had with you and he will wonder why you have stopped trying to get him back. He will be feeling a little loss of pride and ego because he was enjoying having a wonderful woman like you begging for his love.
Your ex will probably check with mutual friends to see if they know what has happened to you, but they will say they haven’t seen you. Then it will hit him like a truck and he will be sure that you have another man and at that very moment you may be in his arms whispering your love. The more time he has to think of it, the more desperate your ex boyfriend will become.
Men do not show their emotions easily, but if they think they are losing something that is very valuable to them, they can become very desperate. This is why you might be surprised at the emails and phone calls he has made while you were away and each of them will say how much your ex boyfriend is in love with you and wants you back.